Adoption Blog

If you are experiencing an unplanned pregnancy you might be feeling scared, confused or unsure about what your next step should be. Will you parent? Will you place your baby for adoption? The path you choose will depend on your own unique circumstances. Parenting and adoption each present their own challenges and benefits. Educating yourself on your options is the only way to know for sure which path is right for you.

Adoption vs. Parenting: Similarities

• You can have the joy of knowing you chose life for your child.
• You can hold, name, and love your baby.
• You will have plenty of time to plan your baby’s future.
• You can know how your child is growing and developing.
• You will need to put your child’s needs above your own desires.

Adoption vs. Parenting: Differences

• When choosing adoption you do not risk parenting before you are ready.
• You can retrieve letters, photos and other updates about your child but not have the full-time responsibility of parenting.
• Adoption allows you to choose a family that is able to provide for you child’s needs whereas with parenting you may need financial support from family members.
• Parenting may delay your education and career goals. Placing your baby for adoption will allow you to continue pursuing those goals.
• Adoption is completely free of charge for the birthparents while parenting can cost upwards of $14,000 per year.

Choosing adoption gives you the choice of whether you want to be in a long term relationship with the baby’s father. Parenting may leave you with little choice. AdoptList is dedicated to helping birthmothers work through their pregnancy options. We believe adoption is a beautiful way to build families and offer a fulfilling life for a child. At no time will we ever pressure you to choose one path or another. Whether you’re ready for the next step or are just looking for someone to speak to, our adoption counselors are always available to take your call.