Dear Birthmom

Dear Mother,

Words cannot express the gratitude we have for you considering us for your baby. We have a feeling you have probably read many of these letters. We start our letter with “Dear Mother” to emphasize the role you play in your baby’s life. It's the role none can take from you. It's not our intention to replace you as your baby’s mother. Our role in your baby’s life will be to support, love, and raise them with values passed down to us from our parents.

We understand your decision isn’t easy and cannot begin to imagine being in your shoes. Whenever you’re ready, we’re here for you during your pregnancy. It’s easy for us to become laser focused on the paperwork. Even with that, there’s still a spark of excitement that pushes us when we think of being picked by you to raise your baby. We hope you are able to find comfort in the fact that we will love your baby with all that we have. After reflecting on this letter and the journey that has led us to this moment, it hit us that there is no one sentence that can convey everything we are feeling.

Thank you for reading about us. We hope to hear from you soon.
Cody and Trenton

Our Story

We are Cody and Trenton. Cody has worked as a service advisor for a local dealership for the last seven years and Trenton as a financial crimes analyst at a bank for the last three years, working from home a majority of the month. We regularly attend Cody’s childhood church on Sundays. We cook dinner together often and then usually spend our evenings on our hobbies, Cody usually building something new for the house or just updating here and there and Trenton listening to an audiobook while crocheting a blanket of some sort. During our time off we enjoy camping in the mountains or a trip to the beach. We met in 2016 online, and it was love at first sight. One of the first conversations we had was about children, and we both came to the consensus that we wanted to be fathers. Married in 2018, we just recently celebrated our fifth anniversary with our annual trip to Dollywood.

 Our Extended Family

We have very different extended families, Cody’s consisting of 40 plus that we regularly see during birthdays and holidays. His parents live down the street from us, and his one brother is just a few minutes away. Cody has roughly 20 cousins, 12 aunts and uncles, and his grandparents on his mother’s side. They are a fun bunch and love to get together to celebrate every accomplishment, whether it is a t-ball game or a wedding.

Trenton’s family is much smaller; he has sadly lost several family members in the last few years. Never knowing his biological father, his stepfather/adoptive father is the only parent he has. He has two half-brothers and three step-brothers as well as two aunts, one uncle, and four cousins. Though they don’t get together for every accomplishment like Cody’s family, their support is known and voiced regularly.

 Our Home

We bought Cody’s parents’ first home from them in 2021. It’s a two-bedroom home, built in 1924. We have been updating it since purchase, and we love our new kitchen. We are within a great community, and most of our neighbors are family. We have a garden where Trenton grows fruits, vegetables, and roses. We are also working on apple trees at the moment. Our two pets include a very lovable cat named Patrick, whom we refer to as Muffin, and a beautiful standard poodle named Chesney. Muffin came into our lives by accident one night, and Chesney, though he loves to run and play, can be quite the lazy dog most days.

 Our Journey to Adoption

We always knew we wanted to be fathers. We attempted a surrogacy, and it did not work out. Trenton’s father adopted him at an early age after marrying his mother. Looking back at how he was loved and cared for by his father, we knew adoption would be right for us as well. Cody has a very large and blended family, and Trenton’s family, though small, is rather well blended also; this helps us to believe that adoption is just right for us. With the differences in our two families, we know and see every day that families come in all different shapes, and ours will be a shape that fits right in.

 Fun Facts

About Cody

Education
BA Theatre
Favorite Hobby
DIY projects
Favorite Sport
Equestrian sports
Favorite Music Group
Dolly Parton
Favorite TV Show
Friends
Favorite Subject in School
Biology
Favorite Tradition
Annual Dollywood trip

About Trenton

Education
HS graduate
Favorite Hobby
Crochet
Favorite Sport
Football
Favorite Music Group
Reba McEntire
Favorite TV Show
Roseanne
Favorite Subject in School
World history
Favorite Tradition
Annual Dollywood trip

Contact Cody & Trenton

Name: *

Invalid Input
Race of Baby:

Invalid Input
Due Date:

Invalid Input
Email Address: *

Invalid Input
Phone Number:

Invalid Input
Message: *

Invalid Input